Life Starts To Suck

As soon as you hit your 30s, everything in your life just starts to take a dip, that is if you're a married woman living in a joint family in a desi household. There's absolutely nothing to brighten up your day and you feel frustration building up inside everyday as soon as you get up. Monotonous routines, the same ugly arguments at home, some of which that make no sense, life generally starts to suck. Perhaps it is admist this chaos that you realize that you're losing time and you need time for self care as well, but then the realization of your desi household kicks in and you're back to square one. 
Life gets even tougher if you have children. They wake up and whine and as much as you'd like to discipline your children, provide them with respectful parenting or do something constructive with them, there comes the same dialogues, "Humne tu yeh na kiya tha. Naye tareeqay se bachay paal rahay ho tum log. Ek lagao nahi suntay tu" and then there goes your parenting style and tactics down the drain. Sometimes the frustration builds up so much inside you that you end up hitting your children and then you cry with them. It is in moments like these that you think where did your life go wrong. One moment you had everything and then you're married,  there's no romance in your life, your slaving like a live in maid and are also expected to fulfill wifely duties. What did you get getting married? The men got a full time maid, a sleeping partner, a woman to take forward their generation but at the cost of what? Your identity,  your self respect, your dreams and your aspirations.

- The Desi Woman

P.S: all thoughts and views expressed here are my own. My rants. I vent out here and clear my head. If you don't agree with it, please scroll ahead.

Love and Peace ✌ 

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